So if this post caught your eye, I’m assuming you got a rock on your finger and are planning away for your perfect day!! But of course, you’ll need your special ladies by your side!! Now, you got to figure out how to ask them! Don’t worry, I got you covered! Below, I have 5 essentials you’ll need when asking your bridesmaids. I encourage you to make it your own by adding your own flair and remember that these are simply guidelines to help the process go a lot smoother for you!
1 Individually or Group
First things first, let’s determine the setting. You need to decide if you are going to ask your girls individually or in a group setting. One way is not better than the other, it’s simply your preference. If you’re asking your girls individually, you can ask them over coffee, over dinner, over brunch, etc., the opportunities are endless! Make it your own!
Other brides-to-be decide to ask all their girls at the same time and that is totally awesome to make it a group thing! You can either host brunch, dinner, drinks, etc. at your place and decorate it super cute to set the mood for you to pop the question(s)! Or you can invite all your girls out to a restaurant and ask them over some yummy food! A picnic is also a great idea depending on the weather! The tricky part of doing a group “popping the question” is to have everyone be able to attend.
Now, the key here is to NOT tell your girls that you’re going to ask them something important! Just invite them and let them know the setting! Now, of course, they’re going to have their predictions, but it’s important that YOU don’t spoil it in order to keep that little suspense going and to make them feel special to be a part of your big day! Some of them will most likely suspect and that’s okay, just don’t confirm any suspicions.
Now, that you’ve determined if you want to ask them individually or in a group setting, let’s talk details. It is common and a nice little touch to give your special girls a little something when asking them to be part of your special day! What container do you want to put your little gift in? There is no RIGHT choice! It can be a cute box, a cute gift bag, basket, etc. The point is to have something to place your gift in. Whatever you choose, you can add little touches to make it cute or pick your container to go along with your wedding colors if you already know those. Those are just suggestions, just pick something, make it cute, and go with it!
This one is very important!! Make sure to ask the question, whether it be, “Will you be my bridesmaid?” or “Will you be my Maid of Honor?”. You can place the question on the outside or on the inside of the container you have chosen. For mine, I put “Will you be my…” on the outside of the box and on the inside of the box lid, I had either “bridesmaid?” or “Maid of Honor?”. You can make it your own here, add your own little touch, I just recommend that you do have that VERY important question somewhere on your gift.
4 Little Something
This is the fun part, at least for me! Choose your gifts for your special girls! You can either get all of them the same thing(s) or you can get/make each of them something different and more personal to your relationship with that person! When choosing your gift(s), remember to not go too overboard in regards to price (Unless money ain’t a thang, then GO-FOR-IT!). My suggestion is to keep it simple, yet cute!
I chose to give all my girls the same thing (nail polish, nail kit, face mask and a small bottle of champagne and the wedding colors). I have also received lotion, a necklace and a cute mug (that I use on a regular basis) when asked to be a bridesmaid. I’m just trying to give you ideas on what I mean by keep it simple, YET cute!
I’ve seen other people make personal things for each of their bridesmaids. For example, they’ll include a picture of them with their bridesmaid and place an item that has sentimental value to both of them or perhaps an item that reminds them of a moment in their lives that was important to both of them! Whatever you chose to give your bridesmaids, have fun with it! Remember simple, YET cute!
5 Make it personal
Don’t forget to have THEIR NAME somewhere on their gift. A cute idea is to have their name cutely on a gift tag, which is also a good idea to identify whose is whose if they all look the same on the outside. You can also place their name along with the question. For example, “Nancy, will you be my bridesmaid?”. I just think that it is essential to have their name on their gift to make it feel more personal to them!
These are my 5 essentials you’ll need when asking your bridesmaids! If you got these 5 things, you got it down! Most importantly, don’t forget to have fun with it!
Share how you asked your bridesmaids, I’d love to know!!